Hello dear friends!
I’m writing this while being really tired, so I apologise for any weird misspellings …
Here’s how it all went since I wrote the last time.
As soon as the new (old) marriage certificate of Ralph’s previous marriage arrived with the Apostille attached on in the late afternoon on Monday, the 9th of April, I started to prepare all the documents that we need to send to the registrar via Email. That’s so they can look at it and tell us if it’s now all acceptable to them. We have to bring the originals with us on the day we get married.
Anyway, I spent till late in the night that same day to scan all of our paperwork and documents and to send it to the registrar. In all it was 6 emails, because of all the attachments. I wanted to send it off that same night, since I wanted them to have it as soon as they start working the next day.
We heard back in the afternoon the next day in an email, informing us that the person who works on our file and who also marries us, is out of office for another week…
Maybe you remember as I was saying in another post, that with our luck with the registrar so far, she’d be on vacation or out of office for another reason once we have everything together…
So we had another week, and a bit more without knowing if it’s going to be accepted now, or if they would come up with something else they require.
At that same time frame I had a number of migraines, almost daily, and one bad enough that it took me a couple days to recover. So I’ve been mostly offline because of that these days. I feel better now and haven’t had another migraine since this weekend.
But we finally heard back from them! At first it was upsetting, as they wrote in the reply that everything was fine now, but we still need to bring them the “Ehefähigkeitszeugnis” , that document we got from the British embassy in Vienna in December of 2017… And we already gave them thst document in the end of January!
Maybe you remember, that they also asked us to bring in the “Ehefähigkeitszeugnis” in February, despite the fact that they already had it. Luckily they found it again back then.
Absolutely in disbelieve, that they seemingly lost that same document again we didn’t know if we should laugh or get totally angry. I tried to call them right away, but could not reach anyone. So I wrote an really upset email to them.
About an hour later, I tried calling again and thankfully reached them.
I told them that they already have that “Ehefähigkeitszeugnis” and explained everything again. She remembered then, about us and our case and she found the document. She was very apologetic, and told me countless times how sorry she was for all that upset and everything we dealt with. And she gave us the next available appointment!
So we’re getting married on
Tuesday, April 24, 2018 at 11am
We just can’t wait! It will be very simple, just my Dad will be with us, as I have no other relatives living in Austria and all my friends moved out of country as well.
But I don’t mind at all, as I just want to celebrate with Ralph and my Dad and spend the rest of the day with Ralph the cats 😽😽😽 Due to my chronic illnesses I’m not well enough for a whole big wedding with lots of people that goes on all day and night anyway.
So we’ll just go for coffee and cake afterwards with my Dad. It’s a special day for us, that’s just beautiful and happy in itself.
We’ve waited so long and worried so much. A few asked me why we would even go through all that just to get married, saying we can be together anyway without that paper.
But for us, it’s cementing our love. We want to be family, a husband and wife with their cats (stepcats😹😅). It’s important to both of us, as we truly love each other.
There’s also important rights and security that comes with it. As a married couple, we can protect each other and speak for each other in case something happens, like me being out of it in an hospital… Ralph would have no right to get information of my condition, would not be able to speak to doctors and would not be able to tell them important things, or speak for me, as he knows what I want and what not.
I can bring Ralph with me to doctors appointments and everywhere else where it would normally not be possible for non family.
There’s many more things that grants us more rights, or makes it easier as a married couple.
Still, foremost it’s love. Just total love. I’m so thankful we found each other and I can’t wait to be Ralph’s wife!
Hugs and love to all of you sweet friends! Thank you for reading and all the wonderful comments!
The cats can’t wait for next week either, as everything will feel a lot more calm as we won’t be worried or stressed out anymore and we can get on with our life as we had wanted back in September already!