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February 17, 2018 – A little update about things just dragging out so much

Hello everyone! It’s been just really a long long while since my last post. I just can’t seem to feel motivated, because of anxiety and feeling a bit stressed. As you know, we’ve been trying to get married for months now, and every time it seems, we are being sent away, because there’s something else that is required by the law.

It would have been easier somewhat, if at least they could have told us what exactly we need to get all at once, instead of bit by bit every time we come back. Especially with things we need to get from the embassy in Vienna. It’s not exactly right around the corner and it’s not cheap to get there either.

If we would have been told everything we need to get, we could have done so when we were at the embassy in December. But in the office, they just tell us “Oh you just simply go to the embassy for that…”

Like the first time we’ve been to the registry office in Graz, where we’ve been told we need to get the certificate from the British embassy that confirms that Ralph is free to marry and that all his papers / documents are genuine. The other thing we’ve been told is that we need to have Ralph’s documents translated into German. I even asked if it has to be a special translator, like a court-approved one and I got the answer “No, it just needs to be simply translated into German and I can get that done by whomever I want “. That was all.

It took us a couple of weeks until we were able to go to Vienna. But eventually, we went to the British embassy in Vienna to get the certificate, which is called “Ehefähigkeitszeugnis” in German. Roughly translated it would be “MarriageAbilityCertificate”. The British embassy also specified that the document they give out is the “Ehefähigkeitszeugnis” and that they give out hundreds of them every year in Austria when a Brit marries an Austrian.

So, after that, we sorted out the translation of the divorce and marriage certificates of Ralph, except for his birth certificate, since we thought it’s silly to translate that, as it’s so obvious and easy to understand since its simply names and birth dates and places.

After that, we went back to the registry office in the end of January, and then suddenly, we were told that Ralph might have to get a new birth certificate and that it probably needs to be translated as well. The first time we’ve been at the registry office, the same person had seen us and that person did not say anything about the birth certificate eventually having to be new, even though they looked at it back then as well. Upon asking where we would get a new birth certificate, the answer was like I wrote above “You just simply go to the embassy in Vienna for that.” Why could they not mention that the first time? We can’t simply go to Vienna like that all the time, not to mention that it’s expensive.

But on that day, they took in our documents and everything and they said it might be fine like that anyway. We were told that the registrar would contact us.

And that contact happened this Friday, the 16th of February, via email to me. In that email, it said that there were some more documents needed for us to be able to get married.

So we need to get all the English documents translated by an official translator who would be court. As well, we need to get an Apostille for each of Ralph’s documents, which we can hopefully get via mail from the British government. But it seems like we can do that according to the British government website. I think it’s about 50£ for each Apostille.

Nothing about needing an Apostille was mentioned the previous times we have been there. Nothing at all.

Not even on their website. But it’s in the state laws, but how are we to know. You would think that the registry office would know and tell you everything that is needed.

But the last thing listed as being needed was exactly the document we had already given them, the certificate from the British embassy in Vienna.

Upset, I wrote back right away, explaining that we had already given them that document and that they should have it. And to let me know what’s up with that.

Later on, the person called me, telling me that the document was found, but that they’re not sure it will be accepted as “Ehefähigkeitszeugnis”. Seems like they haven’t seen it before. Apparently no British / Austrian marriages in my city, otherwise they would have known it. The embassy gives those out all the time and they’re accepted just fine in the rest of Austria apparently.

The thing is, that Austria is a bit similar to the US in the way that there’s federal law and state laws. Each state has their own laws to some degree.

But still, it’s an official document, it’s the exact thing they wanted. That’s just the way the British one is. Every countries documents look different. That’s what you get from them and we would not get anything different from the embassy, even if they won’t accept it.

I have been seriously thinking about getting married in England now and I will be looking into it. Since Ralph and I live here, I don’t know if it would be possible to just go to Ralph’s home country England, just to get married and then back to Austria again. But I will find out.

It might even work out easier and cheaper.

Though, I will get a call on Thursday, where we will be informed if the embassy certificate will be accepted or not.

So we will see.

Sigh… I’m really upset and Ralph is really upset. Even the cats were upset when we were totally upset on Friday, since they pick up the worried feelings up from us.

We feel a little better today, but not by much. We don’t sleep right, as it’s constantly in our minds.

I would have not been too upset about the other things, but that the highly official certificate from the British embassy might not be accepted, that’s just something we would have never expected.

We love each other so much, and we want to be family and married. It’s security also, as once we’re married, we have rights. If something were to happen to either of us, we would have no right to speak to doctors or make decisions we know that the other would want. And most of all, we found in each other the love of our lives, and we want to be husband and wife forever.

We’re about to go to sleep now lol. I hope that this blog post will help me feel better since I could get it out like that.

Otherwise, we’re happy and healthy, as are our 3 kitties 😽😽😽

I will reply to the sweet comments tomorrow and post a couple more uplifting things, like cat pictures!😸 Yay!

Thanks everyone for reading and for being the lovely kind friends that you are.

Night, night from Ralph, Murli, Samantha, Sonic and me☺️😽😽😽☺️✨🌙💤💤💤💤💤

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June 30, 2017 Time to let all of you know more about how I found real love

Hello dear friends and furpals!

Only a very few will know at least a little bit about the relationship side in my life. I won’t go into too much detail about myself in that regard, just that I simply never met anyone who accepted me just like I am as a girlfriend. Everyone I got to know, would soon talk about nothing more than the ways in which I needed to change myself and how I would need to accept things as they wanted them to be, since it’s considered the norm usually. Since I’m not the norm, I was automatically expected to be the one to change.

To myself, I’m happy to be as I am, I like myself and am happy with myself. I just appreciate everything that I have and don’t even think about things that I don’t have.  I just concentrate on every bit of good in life, every good day, every good hour, my sweet Murli, Dad and the wonderful friends I have. All these things I am so grateful for.

I lived day-to-day, happy within myself and my life, and did not even consider that I will be in a relationship in the future. Every day, I just went about my life as it is and has been for many years. I take care of everything I can do that isn’t limited by my pain conditions. I help my Dad, and have so much fun blogging, commenting and posting everywhere my friends are. I made many wonderful friends that way and some them I consider close friends by now.

Going about my usual day, reading blogs and comments, I came across a profile picture, Ralph’s profile picture. I don’t know anymore if it was in someones Sidebar with many links to other blogs, or if it was within the comments that I came across the profile picture of Ralph. Somehow, and I still can’t even find the words for it. I was drawn to it instantly. Nothing like that had ever happened, and I saw so many pictures of others online. But with Ralph’s picture, it was more like BANG! And it drew me closer like a massive star.

So of course I went to check out his blog, read many of his blog posts, his comments, the About page. Everything I read on Ralph’s blog, just drew me in even closer. It’s a combination of so many things that are just out of this world wonderful. I commented and from then on, we were posting comments on each others blogs. Over the course of the first months, I fell in love with him and there was really nothing I could do about it, it just kept getting more and more. Though, in my mind I knew I needed to be careful, because I was thinking a relationship would just impossible with me. I also didn’t want someone so wonderful and kind as Ralph is, with so much love to give, to end up unhappy. I worried about this, despite having a very good feeling about it. So I remained quiet about it for months, as I really did not want to cause any upset and emotional turmoil within Ralphs life.

But as the time went by, with us communicating over the comments on our blogs, I just sent an email to Ralph in the beginning of June. I couldn’t take it anymore and just wanted to talk with him more. We had such wonderful and amazing conversations in our comments already, and so I wanted more communication with him. I also sent him a link to my photo album where I have 100s of pictures of Murli, weather pics and cloud formations, and of my city, as well as two pictures of myself, as I just wanted him to see more of my life.

From then on we kept emailing each other long emails, and soon we started having voice calls, a couple of hours long, and every day. In one of the first calls we had, and after a couple very long emails in which we both opened up about what we feel, we became a couple. Every day since, we’ve been messaging, emailing and having calls over the internet. It’s absolutely wonderful! There are just no words anymore to describe how amazing it all is.

I have never in my life felt anything like this. I feel so much unconditional love, and we have been so at ease with each other right from the first comments on our blogs. It just continued on like that, and whatever we did and however we communicated, we were and are always so natural, at ease and comfortable with each other. From the beginning it was and still is like we’ve known each other all our lives already. There is no worry, no barriers, no uncomfortable silence or worries about what to say and what not to say. We both just freely talk and speak our minds, and pour out our hearts. Never in my life have I met someone so similar to myself in so many ways. Our personalities, the way in which we do things, the way in which we just go about our days as well as so many interests we have in common, and the same likes and dislikes. It all feels completely natural and comfortable. My love for Ralph is unconditional, and all I want is a life with us together and the cats.

On July 12th, I will fly to Spain, and stay for a couple of weeks. A time we both await like nothing ever before. There are so many things to look forward to in regards to the future and life itself now. Ralph loves cats just as I do and has two wonderful kitties, which are Sonic and Samantha, and my future furkids and Murlis new siblings. Yaaaaaaaaay!

And as I mentioned in my previous post, a really wonderful thing happened regarding my daily migraines. Ever since we became a couple… my daily migraines have decreased massively. All the things that would normally trigger migraines, don’t cause them and that’s been like it for weeks now. The only time I seem to still get a migraine is physical exhaustion and heavy lifting. It’s absolutely amazing to me and opens up so many new possibilities in life. I can’t remember when I ever felt that good physically and it’s just stunning! It’s beautiful!

Ralph is such a wonderful, loving and kind man, and I still just can’t believe my luck. I feel like I’m the luckiest woman ever and I can not wait for us to be together in person soon!

We don’t care about our age difference, it does not matter. We fit together so perfectly, so smoothly and it could not be more wonderful and special. And it’s all very special.

There will be more updates coming, which I’ll post from Spain.

Here are two beautifully written posts Ralph wrote about us:
June 27, 2017 – How Love Found Ralph On WordPress Com
June 30, 2017 – 325 This Is LOVE

Also: yaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay!!!!!!! Yaaaaaaaaaay! So happy!!!! 🙃🙃🙃🙃😸💕

Ralph, me and the furkids

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May 7, 2017 Lazy Sunday

May 5, 2017 3:49pm

Hope you all had a nice weekend!

Aside from being busy, the week ended well! No migraines for a couple of days either, despite the weather changes from cold to warm and back. I’ve ended up pretty exhausted every evening though. Some of you already know about me having to pack up my belongings that a friend of mine kept in storage for me in their free storage room they didn’t need. But because they increased the rent dramatically for that apartment, my friend is moving out. We had hoped we will have found a solution for all my stuff by now, but because everything came different from what we had planned back then, my furniture and household goods had been there the entire time since 2012.

So I’m working on that every day a little bit and then help with cooking and a bunch of other stuff at home that my Dad was usually doing, since my he is not able to do much with that bandage on his hand at the moment. He isn’t in any pain though, it’s just a hindrance.

Murli was able to enjoy the sun yesterday and today for the most part, even though we were supposed to get rain all weekend and the temperatures were supposed to drop pretty low again. It’s also warm enough today for us to leave at least the small window open, which is always wonderful.

On Friday it was still a bit too chilly for open windows all afternoon, but at least we had sun for the most part. There were definitely enough sun puddles for Murli to enjoy. The sun was already gone from that spot when I took the picture of her at the kitchen window. There are always a lot of birds zooming by here.

Murli “I cud have swears me saws sumthin. Sumthin waz there jus nao. Maybe iz comin back! I better keepz lookin.”

 

May 5, 2017 3:48pm
The kitchen window. Even though I’d put all kinds of blankies and even one of her kitty beds there, she goes and naps next to them MOL. But the cooler surface is better when it’s getting hot anyway.

Murli sends purrs and paw hugs to all of you and we think of the ones who are sad and have difficult times. Love to you all!

 

 

 

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February 25, 2017 Caturday

Happy Caturday furends!

This week was as usual for us. But my iphone suddenly stopped working right. I just had no reception anymore. Wifi was working fine, but I had no reception otherwise. I had that iphone for over 4 years and just recently it fell to the ground for the first time in all that time. So I guess that’s what caused it. Having it fixed would cost more than actually getting a new phone. And so I did. Thankfully it’s not expensive to get a new phone, because I had a lot of points collected (that you can use to get a new phone) and I had my plan extended for another two years. That way I didn’t really have to pay much to get a new iPhone. Like with all the phones I ever had, I’ll keep this one until it doesn’t work anymore as well.

There it is! And yay!!! It makes such nice pics! They turn out totally pawsome. Now I can take much more detailed photos of Murli. Lol yes, I use a  little”hello kitty” bag for my phone. Did it with the last one too. It’s great because it’s soft and also protects it from the freezing cold in winter.

February 25 2017 new phone 1

February 25 2017 new phone 2

Murli and I had a really sleepy Friday. I had to take my migraine med (Frovatriptan) at 4am in the morning, because of a beginning migraine. I woke up again later without pain, but as you know, those meds make me tired for the rest of the day.

The funny thing is… Everytime I feel more tired for whatever reason, Murli seems to nap more as well. As if she wants to join me in my sleepy laziness, or feels emphatically? Anyway, we hung out in front of the TeeVee a lot more than usual and napped all afternoon lol.

The scratch Murli gave herself above her right eye healed nicely, But the fur hasnt grown back fully yet. You can see it in the picture. She doesn’t have much fur in that area anyway, and if she’s been scratching there for a bit, she’ll rip the bit of fur out she has and it’s instantly obvious. The area above her left eye (at the bottom) is normal. Not much fur as you can see. But it makes for the cutest mimic ever when she looks at you. It has a similar effect as eyebrows have in humans. Love my unique girl!💗

February 24 2017 6:38pm

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It was warm enough on Thursday to leave the window open for a few hours in the afternoon. Wont be that long anymore until she can hang out at the open windows all day. She was watching some birdie that sat right above the window.

February 23 2017 3:45pm

The only other thing worth mentioning is that I couldn’t help ordering some new mousies with her regular food order this month lol. At that online pet supply I order from, you collect points with every purchase, that you can use for things. I usually get new toys for Murli lol. Like she hasn’t enough stuff already, but I don’t care. I love to see her happy❤❤❤

February 24 2017 11:06pm

She loves that new mousie! (A whole pack of them came, but I don’t get all of them out at once) Murli zoomed through the home with her mousie, pawing it everywhere. She loves it! I think that bright green color is pawsome. We like colorful things!

I will close for now, as I’m already getting tired again (had another migraine today, but it wasn’t too bad). That’s why this post is written like a quick note lol. My brain isn’t running properly. Have a lovely Caturday evening all of you! 💕💕💕