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March 5, 2018 Snow, Ice and once more waiting for good news

Hey lovely readers! Here’s the latest of us trying to get married in Graz:

At the moment, we’re waiting and hoping for the best again. Since the registrar requires a certified translation by a court translator for each of Ralph’s documents, and Apostilles (Legalisation) for each of the same documents, we had to try and get that sorted out.

The translations are underway now, and hopefully, we’ll get them back by the end of this week.

For the Apostilles (Legalisation), we had to send Ralph’s original documents off to the UK via courier. We had to fill out an application form online for it and pay. The next morning (Friday), I had the documents shipped to the UK by courier. Now we can only wait and hope that the documents get legalised and that there won’t be any bureaucratic hurdles. If everything goes as it should, they will send the documents with each Apostille back to us by the end of this week.

And if all of that worked out, the last thing to hope for is that the registrar won’t come up with yet another requirement for certified certificates and/or translations.

This is, or should be the last hurdle now and according to the registrar, we can get married as soon as we have the translations and Apostilles. Which would be, or could be next week even! I’m not counting on that though. Until we have everything back and the registrar accepts it all without another request for certificates, I won’t get my hopes up too much.

Ralph and I will finally be able to relax and just enjoy everything after all of that. I will have my mind in the right place again to blog normally, be more cheerful and communicate more with all of you lovely readers.

As for everything else: It’s March, and like almost everywhere in Europe it doesn’t look or feel like it at all. Here in Graz, Austria, the last couple of weeks have been bitterly cold with nights and mornings temperatures between -18°C (-0.4°F) and -15°C (5°F). During the day, the temperatures didn’t go above -5°C (23°F), often it was even colder. We had lots of snow as well.

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Icicles everywhere.
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More icicles!

The temperatures increased to around freezing point over the weekend, but it’s been very foggy and overcast.

This was Sunday, the view over the city from the Schlossberg webcam. Today, it looked exactly the same…

It’s mostly for Ralph and the cats that I wish for more warmth. Although it’s lovely and warm in our apartment, and the snow looks beautiful, it’s no fun going outside like that. Ralph is cold a lot more easily than I am.

But even if it’s -100° and raining icicles, Ralph and I will go out to get married if we get our appointment soon! 😂

For now, we’re staying in most of the time. We enjoy being together all the time, every second of it.

Murli is happy, and so are Sonic and Samantha. I’m really looking forward to making our balcony pretty and cat safe, and the windows too. Will be lovely, for the summer breeze to come through the open windows and the open balcony door. All of us will love it!

Everyone in the kitchen
Our kitchen

There will be nice walks in the nearby park, where we can see a bit of the sunset.

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This is the park near our home.
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The sunsets will be nice from here

I will do my best to reply to all your sweet comments. Shame on me… It’s normally the first thing I do in the day as soon as I have time. Hopefully, things will get back to normal soon, once we can relax and all the worrying about bureaucrats is over.

Thank you so much, for always being so kind and leaving such wonderful comments on my blog.

The cats, Ralph and I love you all!

 

 

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February 17, 2018 – A little update about things just dragging out so much

Hello everyone! It’s been just really a long long while since my last post. I just can’t seem to feel motivated, because of anxiety and feeling a bit stressed. As you know, we’ve been trying to get married for months now, and every time it seems, we are being sent away, because there’s something else that is required by the law.

It would have been easier somewhat, if at least they could have told us what exactly we need to get all at once, instead of bit by bit every time we come back. Especially with things we need to get from the embassy in Vienna. It’s not exactly right around the corner and it’s not cheap to get there either.

If we would have been told everything we need to get, we could have done so when we were at the embassy in December. But in the office, they just tell us “Oh you just simply go to the embassy for that…”

Like the first time we’ve been to the registry office in Graz, where we’ve been told we need to get the certificate from the British embassy that confirms that Ralph is free to marry and that all his papers / documents are genuine. The other thing we’ve been told is that we need to have Ralph’s documents translated into German. I even asked if it has to be a special translator, like a court-approved one and I got the answer “No, it just needs to be simply translated into German and I can get that done by whomever I want “. That was all.

It took us a couple of weeks until we were able to go to Vienna. But eventually, we went to the British embassy in Vienna to get the certificate, which is called “Ehefähigkeitszeugnis” in German. Roughly translated it would be “MarriageAbilityCertificate”. The British embassy also specified that the document they give out is the “Ehefähigkeitszeugnis” and that they give out hundreds of them every year in Austria when a Brit marries an Austrian.

So, after that, we sorted out the translation of the divorce and marriage certificates of Ralph, except for his birth certificate, since we thought it’s silly to translate that, as it’s so obvious and easy to understand since its simply names and birth dates and places.

After that, we went back to the registry office in the end of January, and then suddenly, we were told that Ralph might have to get a new birth certificate and that it probably needs to be translated as well. The first time we’ve been at the registry office, the same person had seen us and that person did not say anything about the birth certificate eventually having to be new, even though they looked at it back then as well. Upon asking where we would get a new birth certificate, the answer was like I wrote above “You just simply go to the embassy in Vienna for that.” Why could they not mention that the first time? We can’t simply go to Vienna like that all the time, not to mention that it’s expensive.

But on that day, they took in our documents and everything and they said it might be fine like that anyway. We were told that the registrar would contact us.

And that contact happened this Friday, the 16th of February, via email to me. In that email, it said that there were some more documents needed for us to be able to get married.

So we need to get all the English documents translated by an official translator who would be court. As well, we need to get an Apostille for each of Ralph’s documents, which we can hopefully get via mail from the British government. But it seems like we can do that according to the British government website. I think it’s about 50£ for each Apostille.

Nothing about needing an Apostille was mentioned the previous times we have been there. Nothing at all.

Not even on their website. But it’s in the state laws, but how are we to know. You would think that the registry office would know and tell you everything that is needed.

But the last thing listed as being needed was exactly the document we had already given them, the certificate from the British embassy in Vienna.

Upset, I wrote back right away, explaining that we had already given them that document and that they should have it. And to let me know what’s up with that.

Later on, the person called me, telling me that the document was found, but that they’re not sure it will be accepted as “Ehefähigkeitszeugnis”. Seems like they haven’t seen it before. Apparently no British / Austrian marriages in my city, otherwise they would have known it. The embassy gives those out all the time and they’re accepted just fine in the rest of Austria apparently.

The thing is, that Austria is a bit similar to the US in the way that there’s federal law and state laws. Each state has their own laws to some degree.

But still, it’s an official document, it’s the exact thing they wanted. That’s just the way the British one is. Every countries documents look different. That’s what you get from them and we would not get anything different from the embassy, even if they won’t accept it.

I have been seriously thinking about getting married in England now and I will be looking into it. Since Ralph and I live here, I don’t know if it would be possible to just go to Ralph’s home country England, just to get married and then back to Austria again. But I will find out.

It might even work out easier and cheaper.

Though, I will get a call on Thursday, where we will be informed if the embassy certificate will be accepted or not.

So we will see.

Sigh… I’m really upset and Ralph is really upset. Even the cats were upset when we were totally upset on Friday, since they pick up the worried feelings up from us.

We feel a little better today, but not by much. We don’t sleep right, as it’s constantly in our minds.

I would have not been too upset about the other things, but that the highly official certificate from the British embassy might not be accepted, that’s just something we would have never expected.

We love each other so much, and we want to be family and married. It’s security also, as once we’re married, we have rights. If something were to happen to either of us, we would have no right to speak to doctors or make decisions we know that the other would want. And most of all, we found in each other the love of our lives, and we want to be husband and wife forever.

We’re about to go to sleep now lol. I hope that this blog post will help me feel better since I could get it out like that.

Otherwise, we’re happy and healthy, as are our 3 kitties 😽😽😽

I will reply to the sweet comments tomorrow and post a couple more uplifting things, like cat pictures!😸 Yay!

Thanks everyone for reading and for being the lovely kind friends that you are.

Night, night from Ralph, Murli, Samantha, Sonic and me☺️😽😽😽☺️✨🌙💤💤💤💤💤

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September 12, 2017 – Finally! The last few days before we’re together in Austria!

Wow! It’s been over a month now since I came back from Spain and since I last wrote an update. As you probably already read on my dear Ralph’s post, things have been stressful and worrying for a while, as we were looking for a removal company and as we tried to figure out a way to bring the cats to Austria. It was especially stressful for Ralph. I worried a lot myself, which is why I did not post on my blog like I had wanted to. I usually can’t do things I enjoy doing when I’m anxious or worried for some reason. My mind was all with Ralph and the cats, Murli’s new siblings, Sonic and Samantha.

Basically, from the first day of me being back in Austria, Ralph and I started to organise and arrange everything necessary for the big move… and it just never stopped. At first things were not easy, as we tried to sort out a transport for the cats and Ralph’s belongings to Austria. But either the companies we contacted did not reply at all, or they were simply outrageously expensive. One removal company we had first wanted to use, only does moves to the UK and from the UK. The same thing was true for the animal courier company we wanted to use at first. We wrote to a couple of others, and either we got no reply (despite multiple tries from both of us), or they also only served moves from and to the UK, or they were outrageously expensive as well.

So this is how things went…

The first change we decided on, was that we’ll get our new apartment together, as we want the contract to be in both our names, and we both need to be here for that. It’s going to be quick with the new apartment, once Ralph is here with the cats. I already have an apartment in mind for us that we might take. But we’ll decide about that together.

So for the time until we have our apartment, I have found us a B&B that allows guests to bring their pets. It’s not far from the city centre, and everything we need is close by. My kitty girl Murli will be staying with my Dad until we have the apartment, as Sonic and Samantha will have been through enough stress by the time they’re in Graz, and it would not be a good time to introduce Murli to them on top of everything else. The cats already know each other smells, as I sent Ralph toys I made, which I filled with Murli’s fur. And I have Samantha and Sonic’s fur for Murli. She always starts purring and rubs her head into the little toy that I filled with Sonic and Samantha’s fur.

Another change was the transport of the cats themselves. Since we had no luck with the animal courier companies, we thought about having them transported by themselves via an Airline. But, turns out it’s actually much easier, at least nowadays, to fly together with your cats. Not all airlines want to transport animals in the hold and only allow one cat and carrier per person in the cabin. The carrier would be put underneath the seat in front of you. Since Ralph flies alone and has two cats, we had to see which Airline would transport pets in the hold. Thankfully, one of the Airlines that flies from Malaga to Vienna, does what we need.

Shortly before, Ralph had finally found a removals company that will transport everything to Austria for a reasonable price. And then, once we had a date for the removals truck to arrive at Ralph’s home in Spain, he was able to book his flight and then also book the cats onto his flight! That big worry was finally over with! We finally had transport for the apartment contents and a flight for Ralph and the cats.

Meanwhile, I found us a storage place in Graz, that is really nice, flexible, and they were very kind and helpful, with the price being totally fine. So it’s no problem to have Ralph’s belongings transported to Graz and directly put into the storage place I rented.

The last important step for the cats has been done yesterday in the afternoon, as Sonic and Samantha got their health certificates and all important stamps and stickers in their cute little blue passports. So everything is set for Ralph and the kitties to fly! Yay!

After a month with emotional up and downs, during which we didn’t know when exactly we would see each other again, we finally had a countdown to a certain date:

The plane will land shortly before midnight on Friday the 15th in Vienna. Because of that, I had booked us a hotel room near the airport, where we and the cats can relax and get a good nights sleep. Then towards noon on Saturday, we’ll get on the train to Graz. If I had not booked a hotel room, we would have had to hang around the airport all night, to take the first train to Graz. Which would have been no fun at all and especially not fair on the cats.

Ralph will leave for the airport in Malaga at about the same time as I will leave here to take the bus to Vienna Friday afternoon. I’ll arrive at the airport in Vienna at 7:10pm, where I will buy a couple of things for us in the grocery store there and then check into the Hotel. I’ll be at the hotel when Ralph will still be at the airport. Then I’ll follow his flight to Austria on flightradar24.com just like he did with my flight to Spain. Then, about half an hour or so before the plane will be due to land, I’ll be at the airport.

It will be one of the most relieving and happy moments ever to see Ralph and the cats again! Finally in Austria, to start our life together. I’ll be celebrating that day every year, that’s for sure. And I’ll be taking pictures of Ralph and the cats at Vienna airport too, so I can share it with you all☺

Oh I will be so very glad when Ralph and the cats have safely arrived in Vienna. Yay! Just a few more days now…

I’ll post a short update from the hotel room in Vienna when Ralph, the cats and i are finally reunited.

Lots of love from Murli and I and thank you all so much for your love and kindness❤

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August 8, 2017 Back in Austria, after the best time of my life! And with news!

Hello dear friends!

So where to start… after so much has happened, so much is happening and the long time I’ve been gone from my blog. I will start with an apology to all of you, every single one of you wonderful friends, the ones who’ve known me and the many who came here through the blog of my dearest Ralph. I apologise for not posting on here, like I had thought I will do. I travelled to Spain, thinking I’ll be posting from there… But then Ralph and I were so much within our own happiness, enjoying every second we had together. From the moment I got out of the Taxi in front of Ralph’s home in Spain, to our first hug, we were just in the clouds with our minds. We were pretty much useless for anything else but enjoying each others company.

We were just as relaxed, natural, and at ease with each other, as we’ve been all the time before during our many hour-long calls, our emails and messages. It was even better than I had expected. We are so good together, it’s pretty much a miracle. We complete each other in a perfect way. And from the first things we did together, like making orange juice, we were a perfect team in even such little tasks. Everything between us is smooth, happy, natural and totally uncomplicated. It’s like we understand each other blindly, and as if we’ve known each other for all our lives.

It really was so amazing, so much more than I could never have imagined before, that we forgot everything else, as the time went by so quickly. Ralph started to reply to many of his lovely readers after quite a while, little by little. I was usually beside him or nearby, but still useless for writing a blog post…

The cats Samantha and Sonic are just the sweetest! They too stole my heart in no time and I love them! They seem to have taken a liking to me as well! Yay! I had so much fun playing with them, cuddling them, and taking to them. It was so sweet to sleep in a bed with Ralph and two cats!

Sonic and Samantha enjoying the morning sun on the bed

As for sweet Murli, I was so very relieved and happy, because she was just fine, and happy, eating and playing and cuddling normally, thanks to my Dad. He took good care of her and they had quite a bit of fun. I was in communication with Dad every day, so I constantly knew how she’s doing, which put me at ease. Although I was missing her lots, and I cried for quite a while when the train left Graz for Vienna, on my first day of travel to Spain (I had to take a hotel room near the airport, since the flight to Malaga, Spain, was going very early in the morning the next day).

I will be writing a couple more posts soon, as there is so much to post about, I can’t do it in just one post. There are many pictures and things to write about, so I will do that in a couple separate posts. Today, this post is for the most important updates, so everybody knows about what’s going on with us.

So on to the news!

Back when we were still only communicating over the distance, in our many hours long daily calls over google hangouts, and countless long messages and emails, we were already amazed at how amazingly well we get on. We never seem to run out of things to talk about, and we are able to talk about everything. We’re both open and honest with each other, and we found that we have all interests in common, and the things we like and dislike, the way in which we go about our lives and the way in which we deal with things. We constantly found new things we had in common. And everything is so smooth and natural between us, so easy and relaxed and happy, it’s like a dream. Something like this doesn’t normally happen I always thought. I certainly would have never expected to find someone to love and who would love me. I had given up on finding someone for me long ago, when I was about 25. Now with 37, BANG! Finding the love of my life, when I least expected it.

Our time together in Spain, absolutely and completely reaffirmed what we had already felt and wanted before I came to Spain, and much much more on top of that. While there, Ralph and I got engaged, all official with a ring and everything. I had said YES within a millisecond. YAY!!!!! And I say Yes a quadrillion times more, endlessly for the rest of our lives. I say yes with all I am, and my heart and soul. Not a single hint of any doubts in either of our hearts.

For some, or even many, it might seem crazy, and that we’re doing things too fast… But for someone on the outside, it’s just different, as they can’t see within our hearts and minds, and how wonderful we are together, and how well we take care of each other and how happy we are, and how absolutely honestly we mean it with each other. For us, there is no reason to lose any time that we could spend together as a couple, as husband and wife. There’s no reason to wait, as everything is already clear and it could not become any more clear and certain that we are right for each other. So any waiting period would not change anything, but would just be time we’re not together. And with time, everybody can see for themselves how wonderful we are together and how much we help and support each other.

Hopefully, within September, Ralph will be able to come to Austria, as well as the cats, his belongings and all the contents of his apartment, after I have found us a home here in or around my city of Graz. From the moment on, that I have my dearest Ralph back, as I pick him up from the airport in Vienna, he will never again have to do anything alone, as I’ll be there, with him, for him and through everything. I love him so much, and I want to see him happy and make his life easier, in any way that I’m able to. Ralph is such a big support for me as well, with my anxiety, and my medical conditions, and together we are complete. Together we can get things done perfectly, as we really complete each other to such a degree, it’s like we’re really meant to be together.

Some of you will already know about it all, since Ralph’s post went live late last night, and the wonderful and talented Resa, has finished her newest art gown, which was another really miraculous thing, because of the way the ideas for the gown and the gown itself seemed to have gone their own way, as if there was some foresight involved. Resa also mentioned us and our announcement in her own very sweet words. You can read all about it here: O Royal Treasure

I will also reblog Ralph’s and Resa’s post on my blog, as they’re just so wonderfully amazing and important.

I thank you so much Ralph, for your amazingly wonderful post about us, and I thank you as well Resa, for dedicating your stunningly beautiful gown to Ralph and now me too, and for your kind words! You are really amazing! Your gown is so beautiful, I’m just speechless. Stunned! Thank you so much!

So that’s it for now, for this post. But there will be more to follow! With more pics!

Thank you all so very much, for all the kind words towards Ralph and I, it’s been absolutely amazing. We’re speechless, getting so much love from so many of you. I thank you from the bottom of my heart!

Sending lots of love to all of you, from Murli and I!

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June 30, 2017 Time to let all of you know more about how I found real love

Hello dear friends and furpals!

Only a very few will know at least a little bit about the relationship side in my life. I won’t go into too much detail about myself in that regard, just that I simply never met anyone who accepted me just like I am as a girlfriend. Everyone I got to know, would soon talk about nothing more than the ways in which I needed to change myself and how I would need to accept things as they wanted them to be, since it’s considered the norm usually. Since I’m not the norm, I was automatically expected to be the one to change.

To myself, I’m happy to be as I am, I like myself and am happy with myself. I just appreciate everything that I have and don’t even think about things that I don’t have.  I just concentrate on every bit of good in life, every good day, every good hour, my sweet Murli, Dad and the wonderful friends I have. All these things I am so grateful for.

I lived day-to-day, happy within myself and my life, and did not even consider that I will be in a relationship in the future. Every day, I just went about my life as it is and has been for many years. I take care of everything I can do that isn’t limited by my pain conditions. I help my Dad, and have so much fun blogging, commenting and posting everywhere my friends are. I made many wonderful friends that way and some them I consider close friends by now.

Going about my usual day, reading blogs and comments, I came across a profile picture, Ralph’s profile picture. I don’t know anymore if it was in someones Sidebar with many links to other blogs, or if it was within the comments that I came across the profile picture of Ralph. Somehow, and I still can’t even find the words for it. I was drawn to it instantly. Nothing like that had ever happened, and I saw so many pictures of others online. But with Ralph’s picture, it was more like BANG! And it drew me closer like a massive star.

So of course I went to check out his blog, read many of his blog posts, his comments, the About page. Everything I read on Ralph’s blog, just drew me in even closer. It’s a combination of so many things that are just out of this world wonderful. I commented and from then on, we were posting comments on each others blogs. Over the course of the first months, I fell in love with him and there was really nothing I could do about it, it just kept getting more and more. Though, in my mind I knew I needed to be careful, because I was thinking a relationship would just impossible with me. I also didn’t want someone so wonderful and kind as Ralph is, with so much love to give, to end up unhappy. I worried about this, despite having a very good feeling about it. So I remained quiet about it for months, as I really did not want to cause any upset and emotional turmoil within Ralphs life.

But as the time went by, with us communicating over the comments on our blogs, I just sent an email to Ralph in the beginning of June. I couldn’t take it anymore and just wanted to talk with him more. We had such wonderful and amazing conversations in our comments already, and so I wanted more communication with him. I also sent him a link to my photo album where I have 100s of pictures of Murli, weather pics and cloud formations, and of my city, as well as two pictures of myself, as I just wanted him to see more of my life.

From then on we kept emailing each other long emails, and soon we started having voice calls, a couple of hours long, and every day. In one of the first calls we had, and after a couple very long emails in which we both opened up about what we feel, we became a couple. Every day since, we’ve been messaging, emailing and having calls over the internet. It’s absolutely wonderful! There are just no words anymore to describe how amazing it all is.

I have never in my life felt anything like this. I feel so much unconditional love, and we have been so at ease with each other right from the first comments on our blogs. It just continued on like that, and whatever we did and however we communicated, we were and are always so natural, at ease and comfortable with each other. From the beginning it was and still is like we’ve known each other all our lives already. There is no worry, no barriers, no uncomfortable silence or worries about what to say and what not to say. We both just freely talk and speak our minds, and pour out our hearts. Never in my life have I met someone so similar to myself in so many ways. Our personalities, the way in which we do things, the way in which we just go about our days as well as so many interests we have in common, and the same likes and dislikes. It all feels completely natural and comfortable. My love for Ralph is unconditional, and all I want is a life with us together and the cats.

On July 12th, I will fly to Spain, and stay for a couple of weeks. A time we both await like nothing ever before. There are so many things to look forward to in regards to the future and life itself now. Ralph loves cats just as I do and has two wonderful kitties, which are Sonic and Samantha, and my future furkids and Murlis new siblings. Yaaaaaaaaay!

And as I mentioned in my previous post, a really wonderful thing happened regarding my daily migraines. Ever since we became a couple… my daily migraines have decreased massively. All the things that would normally trigger migraines, don’t cause them and that’s been like it for weeks now. The only time I seem to still get a migraine is physical exhaustion and heavy lifting. It’s absolutely amazing to me and opens up so many new possibilities in life. I can’t remember when I ever felt that good physically and it’s just stunning! It’s beautiful!

Ralph is such a wonderful, loving and kind man, and I still just can’t believe my luck. I feel like I’m the luckiest woman ever and I can not wait for us to be together in person soon!

We don’t care about our age difference, it does not matter. We fit together so perfectly, so smoothly and it could not be more wonderful and special. And it’s all very special.

There will be more updates coming, which I’ll post from Spain.

Here are two beautifully written posts Ralph wrote about us:
June 27, 2017 – How Love Found Ralph On WordPress Com
June 30, 2017 – 325 This Is LOVE

Also: yaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay!!!!!!! Yaaaaaaaaaay! So happy!!!! 🙃🙃🙃🙃😸💕

Ralph, me and the furkids